You built the business. You took the risk. You carry the whole thing on your back.
So why is everyone getting paid except you?
Staff, suppliers, the landlord, the taxman, your accountant – all sorted, every month, no fail. The man who built the thing comes last. That’s not kindness. That’s you funding everyone else’s life while your own house waits.
The No Bullshit Version
- Feed staff, suppliers, the taxman and the accountant first and yourself last, and you don’t own a business – you own an expensive hobby that pays everyone but you.
- “People-first leadership” sounds noble. In practice it means you subsidise everyone else’s wages and take home the scraps.
- Being the cheerful provider for the whole world while your own family comes last isn’t kindness. It’s a slow mugging you agreed to.
- The fix isn’t guilt about paying yourself. It’s building the thing to make YOU rich first, not last.
Happy-clappy business owners have skinny kids.
And nobody’s calling Childline.
I’m talking about the owner who feeds everyone else first.
…Staff.
…Suppliers.
…Landlord.
…Taxman.
…Accountant.
Everyone gets paid.
Everyone gets looked after.
Everyone gets a nice warm cuddle.
Yet…
The man who built the thing gets to the end of the month…
Looks at his bank balance and finds a moth, some dust, and maybe enough cash to take the family out…
No pudding though.
But hey.
As long as everyone else is happy, right?
Wrong.
This is the happy clappy disease.
It sounds noble.
It feels kind.
It gets applause from people who say things like “people-first leadership” while posting selfies next to oat milk.
But underneath?
It’s a mugging with invoices.
Because a business that feeds everyone except the owner is not a business.
It’s a charity that still pays VAT.
Why does my business turn over well but I’m still skint?
Because you’re paying everyone else first. Staff, suppliers, the landlord, the taxman, the accountant – they all get their cut before you see a penny. Revenue looks healthy, the bank account doesn’t, and the man who built the thing ends the month with dust. Turnover isn’t the problem. The order you pay people in is.
What’s wrong with “people-first” leadership?
Nothing, until it means the owner comes last. People-first sounds noble and gets applause from the oat-milk LinkedIn crowd, but in practice it often means you’re subsidising everyone else’s wages and taking home the scraps. A business that looks after everyone except the person who built it isn’t kind. It’s badly run.
Should a business owner pay himself first?
Yes. If you built it, took the risk and carry it, you’re not a charity – you’re the point of the whole exercise. Paying yourself last isn’t humble, it’s daft. Build the numbers so the owner gets paid properly, then everyone else, not the other way round.
What is the “happy-clappy disease”?
It’s when an owner feeds staff, suppliers and everyone else first, gets a warm glow from being liked, and quietly bankrupts his own household doing it. It feels kind and gets applause. Underneath, it’s a business that pays everyone but the man who built it – which isn’t really a business at all.
What To Do Next
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